Mothers in the Legal Profession Roundup No. 356 (Seven Years!)

 

Week of July 14 – 20, 2014

 

Mommy and the Sin City is too smart for any sabotage from her computer products and has posted the Roundup!

Also, I think, this July is the seven-year anniversary month of the Mothers in Law School-to-Mothers in the Legal Profession Roundup group. Wow!

 

The weekly Mothers In the Legal Profession Roundup is hosted on a rotating basis at the ButterflyfishGraceBJJ, Law, and Living, Mommy and the Sin CityMagic CookieThe Reluctant Grownup, and Perspectives From a Hard Boiled Egg blogs.

 

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Us, This Week
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The Stress Switchbacks of a Single Day

The switchbacks of one 24-hour period!

By yesterday morning, our personal stress, as well as our sympathetic stress, had reached an unmaintainable pitch. And, it was all intertwined.

Our living situation: My lease ends July 31. I would like to move to someplace a bit cheaper–I was considering a roommate situation, among other housing options. I kept waiting on a job to materialize out of all the applications I have out there. I have poured my soul into those applications. Almost all of them are still open. Things move slowly.

But, it would be nice to know in which direction a new commute would be oriented, and rental applications need proof of income. Therefore, I wanted the job lined up before the rental search began in earnest. It was becoming quickly apparent, though, that, even if someone wanted to set up a job interview in the next day, I probably would not have a job offer in hand, a new place found, and everything I own packed and moved by July 31. The vacate day here. I would have to move out with no where to move to.

Rosebud, at least, had a room at her dad’s house. She would not be homeless. In a sort of gallows humor style, we would joke about where my new cardboard box home should be located. Olive the Dog could wear a cardboard sign around her neck.

Seahawk’s family’s living situation: Their lease, at their place, ends . . . July 31. Some things were not falling into place for them, either, though.

Then, the stress started, finally, to lift a little.

Our living situation: Yesterday afternoon, I finally was pushed into the turn and went to talk to our rental office here to see if we could extend this lease a month. I was almost sick to my stomach walking over there, knowing my apartment had likely already been rented out. Sure enough, it had been promised to new tenants, but the office agreed to call them and see if they would take a different apartment. We waited by the phone for the answer. Yes! Yes, they would take the other apartment. The office’s offer to us was that we could switch to month-to-month with a 30-day notice requirement (on our long-term lease it had been 60-day notice). The rent is $155 more a month, which really hurts (remember I was looking for something cheaper). But, it means having a home and not moving twice within a few months or putting my stuff in storage and . . . ? Of course, I wish I had been able to foresee all of this when I made my last lease term 11 months!

Seahawks’s family’s living situation: Later that evening, a key component fell into place for Seahawk’s family. We love them, so our stress lifted some more with that news.

But, then some of the stress returned–from a different angle.

Rosebud’s living situation: Late last night, things took another definite downturn with Rosebud being able to live at her dad’s happily. Her dad would not put her out on the street, of course. But, tensions are running incredibly high. It’s all so stupid, which makes it all the more infuriating.

I am so glad I am staying here, on this side of the country, so that I can be plan B in providing Rosebud a home (which I think has actually become plan A, at this point). While I wish I would have the bar exam over this summer and then be sworn in soon afterwards, can you imagine how stressed I would be hundreds of miles away trying to go through the final crunch and the exam in two weeks? I think that is what nervous breakdowns are possibly made of.

I was sorry our day ended on a sad note (because it is a sad situation for them), but glad that our overall stress had decreased so significantly. I can truly focus on the most important tasks at hand now.

They were some crazy switchbacks, but at least they served their purpose. We ended the day in a better place than where we began it.

Meanwhile,

we live in a crazy chaos: some things packed, some things not, some things here, some things at Rosebud’s dad’s house in a state of limbo.

 

On This Date . . .

2012:  We decided to move here. Partly for me (transfer of law schools). Partly for Rosebud’s relationship with her dad and family.

2010: Post on priorities. Then, I noticed LSAT study and exercise were given more square feet in my home than my work station (I telecommuted). Priorities in today’s post as measured in time and decisions? Family relationships, a home, and a job.

 

 

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Mothers in the Legal Profession Roundup No. 355

 

Week of July 7 – 13, 2014

I struggled a bit with how I wanted to approach this roundup. Good things happen, annoying things happen, and bad things happen on any given day. Sometimes, things seem to be going along relatively evenly. Sometimes, there are stretches where it feels like a battle of the one against the Fates.

I am truly happy for members of our group when things are going well. My heart breaks for those who are going through harder times. I miss people who suddenly stop blogging, and I wonder if things are okay. I don’t always comment, but I am thinking of you when I read your posts. I think that is true for most, probably all, of us.

 

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Three Degrees of Connection

Applying for jobs. It takes a lot of time, especially law-type jobs. I search for positions. Once I find something interesting, I research the organization/firm/agency and the people in it as much as possible. Then, I craft a cover letter. Sometimes, there is more–references, writing samples.

Not one position has been identical to another one. Not once have I been able to simply reuse a cover letter, just switching out the specific data.

Part of the research I do often involves Continue reading

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Mothers in the Legal Profession Roundup 354

 

Week of June 30 – July 6, 2014

 

Grace put together our Roundup this week. It was an In Her Own Words type, and I loved laughing at my own words from her perspective.

 

The weekly Mothers In the Legal Profession Roundup is hosted on a rotating basis at the ButterflyfishGraceBJJ, Law, and Living, Mommy and the Sin CityMagic CookieThe Reluctant Grownup, and Perspectives From a Hard Boiled Egg blogs.

 

Would you like your blog to be considered in the weekly Mothers in the Legal Profession Roundup? Leave a comment or send an e-mail to any of the hostesses listed above.


Us, This Week
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2011
2010
2008

 

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Weekends are Long . . .

 

when you are looking for a job

and

waiting to hear back on applications,

looking at static boards

for any new listings.

Time marches on, but processes stop.

 

 

Three-day weekends are even longer.

 

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What I Would Have Said in Church About Revelation

new steeple  Many years ago, I was sitting in a Sunday School class when a woman, who has a daughter about my age, told of an experience she had with personal revelation. She was very concerned about a church policy, it was very upsetting, and she prayed earnestly about it, a lot. It was enough of a conflict that she was having a hard time reconciling her membership in a church which, otherwise, had such great truths in it. Eventually, she had a spiritual experience that left her believing beyond doubt that the Lord knew and that things would not remain as they were.

I don’t remember the time frame, if she stated it, but that church policy did eventually change.

I have carried that story in my heart all these years (at least 11 or 12 years).

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